Every alpha male knows this: not every woman you meet is looking for love, loyalty, or even your energy. Some are simply looking for what they can get—attention, validation, money, or comfort.
The sooner you spot the red flags, the sooner you stop wasting time. And real men don’t chase what doesn’t want to be kept.
Here’s how to know she’s not serious—and she’s just using you.
1. She Only Shows Up When She Needs Something
Whether it’s money, a ride, favors, or emotional support, she conveniently appears when it benefits her. But when you need her? She’s suddenly unavailable, busy, or ghosting.
Alpha move: Stop being her rescue plan. Let her learn self-reliance.
2. You’re Not in Her Inner Circle
She keeps you hidden from her friends and family. You’re not on her social media. There are no posts, tags, or public affection. She wants your benefits—not the title.
Alpha insight: If she won’t claim you in public, don’t keep her in private.
3. Conversations Are Always About Her
She rarely asks about your goals, your dreams, or your problems. The spotlight is always on her world, her drama, her wins. You’re not a partner—you’re a therapist or a cheerleader.
Alpha rule: A woman who doesn’t feed your mind doesn’t deserve your time.
4. She Makes You Chase Constantly
You’re doing all the work—texting first, making plans, paying for everything. Her interest is inconsistent, and the moment you pull back, she suddenly throws crumbs to keep you hooked.
Alpha truth: A woman who wants you won’t make you chase forever. She’ll meet you halfway.
5. Sex Is a Transaction, Not Connection
She weaponizes intimacy. She gives it when she wants something, and withholds it when you stand your ground. You can feel it—there’s no emotional bond, only strategy.
Alpha stance: Sex without sincerity is a red flag, not a reward.
6. She Plays the Victim—Always
Everything is someone else’s fault. Her ex was “crazy,” her boss “hates her,” and her friends “are jealous.” Eventually, you’ll be next on her list of people to blame.
Alpha awareness: If she never owns her mistakes, she’ll never respect yours.
7. You Feel Drained, Not Empowered
After spending time with her, you feel tired—not uplifted. You’re always giving, adjusting, sacrificing. That’s not a partnership—that’s emotional slavery.
Alpha principle: If she’s not giving peace, she’s taking power.
